“I hope someday I’d have the chance to bring you to dinners with my girlfriends and they’ll talk about how lucky I am to have caught you. I hope someday you’ll bring me to one of your family parties. I’d be dressed up in a nice cocktail dress and you’d be suited up in that tuxedo, and your cousins would tell us how good we look together. And you’d just spend the entire night telling me how proud you are of me.”
“Because I’m taking a chance.
Because life is too short to always know where you’re headed, too short to be afraid to fall, too short to be selfish with your heart.
Because not planning can be exciting and fun. Because love is one of those things you just jump into fearlessly, and without a guidebook or map.
Because sometimes you don’t need a guidebook or map. You just need your heart, your brain, and the faith in something bigger than yourself.
So I’m going for it. I’m going all in.”
Source: Thought Catalog, Marisa Donnelly http://thoughtcatalog.com/marisa-donnelly/2016/05/im-surrendering-to-love-im-going-all-in/
“I loved being in love with him. Love is easy and strange. I would ponder it on rattling tube trains, on crowded buses, at work – what was it about him that produced this effect on me? I could never decide definitively and had lists of both generalizations and detailed particulars: I loved his generosity, his ability to laugh at himself, his determination, the way he could unequivocally apply himself to any task, his impulsiveness, and how he could find humour in any situation. But yet, I also loved the way he rubbed his hair in a circular motion when he was tired, how his upper lip would stick out when he was cross, that he couldn’t go to sleep unless he had a glass of water by the bed, and that he was constantly surprised by how much food he could eat.”
after you’d gone – Maggie O’Farrell
“I’m never not waiting for you. Even when I’m not,
I’m not not.
They tell me double negatives aren’t grammatically correct,
but neither is this splinter stuck in my middle,
how I can’t seem to pull it out.”
– Extract from On Learning How To Wake Up Without You by Ari Eastman
“13. The one you placed on the pedestal
Sure, the guy who took me to the five-star restaurant, gave me the best orgasm of my life and made me laugh until I cried was great. But he’ll never be Jake.
For all intents and purposes, we all have a Jake. He — or she — is a past love we’ve planted on a throne that no future person could ever reach.”
In a brief conversation, a man asked a lady he was pursuing this question “What kind of man are you looking for?”
She sat quietly for a moment before looking him in the eye and asking “Do you really want to know? Reluctant, he said yes.
She began to expound, “As a woman in this day and age, I am in a position to ask a man what he can do for me that I can’t do for myself. I pay my own bills. I take care of my own household without the help of any man.. or any woman for that matter. I am in the position to ask, what can you bring to the table.”
The man looked at her. Clearly he thought that she was referring to money. She quickly corrected his thought and stated that she wasn’t referring to money. “I need something more. I need a man who is striving for excellence in every aspect of life.”
He sat back in his chair, folded his arms and asked her to explain.
“I need someone who is striving for excellence mentally because I need conversation and a mental stimulation. I don’t need a simple minded man.
I need someone who is striving for excellence spiritually because I don’t need to be unequally yoked.. believers mixed with unbelievers is a recipe for disaster.
I need a man who is striving for excellence financially because I don’t need a financial burden.
I need someone who is sensitive enough to understand what I go through as a woman, but strong enough to keep me grounded.
I need someone who has integrity in dealing with relationships. Lies and game-playing are not my idea of a strong man.
I need a man who is family oriented. One who can be a leader, a priest and provider to the lives entrusted to him by God.
I need someone whom I can respect. In order to be submissive, I must respect him. I cannot be submissive to a man who isn’t taking care of his business. I have no problem being submissive, but he just needs to be worthy.
And by the way, I am not looking for him. He will find me. He will recognize himself in me. He may not be able to explain the connection, but he will always be drawn to me. God made women to be a help-mate for men. I can’t help a man if he doesn’t help himself.”
When she finished her spiel, she looked at him. He sat there with a puzzled look on his face. He said “You’re asking for a lot.”
She replied, “I am worth a lot.”
“Nothing is more attractive than a man who is determined to succeed and is constantly improving himself and working hard to achieve his goals. A man who takes pride in his appearance, body, diet, thoughts, knowledge, family, home and life. A man you can watch and admire. A man that makes you want to become a better woman.”